In Search of a Spacious Place

He brought me out into a spacious place; he rescued me because he delighted in me. Ps. 18:19 Aren't we all longing for a spacious place? Aren't we all longing for a place to run free, to breathe deeply, to spin round and round with our arms wide open? Don't we all desire relationships where … Continue reading In Search of a Spacious Place

Moving Beyond Polarization into Mission

I'm moving on. I've spent the last decade-plus in the midst of a sad and frustrating polarization.  In other posts, I've talked about it as the Emergent-Resurgence polarization.  It's the newest episode in a long series of polarization-episodes.  We, Christians, are Academy Award winners in the Polarization Genre.  Best debates.  Best books.  Best blogs.  Best … Continue reading Moving Beyond Polarization into Mission

To all the women who feel crazy with a narcissist…

Dear "Crazy": Yes, I know you've heard that word over and over again.  Remember the night you just couldn't take it any more?  He wouldn't listen, but he sat there sitting with that look...you know the look...as if to say, "You know how nuts you sound right now?"  And then calmly, rationally, methodically, he laid … Continue reading To all the women who feel crazy with a narcissist…

on self-compassion, inner critics, and becoming the beloved | 3

I heard an interview with a struggling baseball player the other day.  The radio personality interviewing him said, "It must be tough right now."  The player said, "It's always tough.  We work in a profession where succeeding 3 out of every 10 times is success.  We've got to learn to deal with frequent failure." The … Continue reading on self-compassion, inner critics, and becoming the beloved | 3

On Self-Compassion, Inner Critics, and Becoming the Beloved – Part 2

I love this poem by Fleur Adcock.  Take your time and read it.  I'll share some thoughts after it... Weathering My face catches the wind from the snow line and flushes with a flush that will never wholly settle. Well, that was a metropolitan vanity, wanting to look young forever, to pass. I was never … Continue reading On Self-Compassion, Inner Critics, and Becoming the Beloved – Part 2

On Self-Compassion, Inner Critics, and Becoming the Beloved – Part 1

I'm beginning a new series of blog posts on self-compassion, recently requested by some friends and clients.  It's an odd concept, particularly if you're a Christian.  In fact, it may ring of a kind of secularized bastardization of God's love.  I'm not going to spend a whole lot of time arguing with those who'd desire … Continue reading On Self-Compassion, Inner Critics, and Becoming the Beloved – Part 1